At some point in time we have all used the phrase “the good old days”. It’s a great feeling when you reminisce and remember all the good times. A time in life when you were pure, innocent, stress free, and didn’t have a worry in the world. Unfortunately all good things come to an end. For most people they go on to create new memories and live for tomorrow. Then there are others who live for yesterday attempting to bring the past back to life. Those days are gone and the reality of it is they will never come back. The people who were a part of those memories may have started a family and are creating new chapter in their life. There are others who may have passed away. The point is that even if you can somehow recreate the past it will never be the same because those who contributed to making it what it was are no longer around. It is normal to want to go back in time but to an extent. In 20 years we will look back at today and today will be considered “the old days”. Why not make new memories so you’ll have a new batch of good times to reminisce about 20 or 30 years later. I personally struggled with moving forward in life. The music I listened to, the movies I watched and even some of the fashion was all from an era long ago. I didn’t give today a chance. I tried so hard to keep yesterday alive. I finally accepted the fact that it was a closed chapter. I understood it was OK to go back from time to time but I couldn’t stay there. Create as many memories as you can and enjoy the time you have left on this earth. Life is short!

Hello all, my name is Ray and I enjoy helping others. I am here to give advice and to share my personal experiences. I know my posts won’t be useful to everyone but if it helps atleast one person it was successful. I am a great listener and enjoy sharing my opinions.

How important is communication in a relationship? It is probably the most important thing in a relationship. How many times have you and your partner had an argument over a misunderstanding? Or because of something as petty as leaving a toilet seat up? We all have our bad days where the smallest things cause us to blow up. Things that we normally brush off now becomes the spark that lit the fire. Communicating with your significant other is beneficial on so many levels. You learn the things that make them happy, sad, mad, and even the things that put them in the mood. Understanding these things will help with keeping a relationship healthy. There are times where they do something that annoys you but to avoid an argument you let it slide. Now they do it again at a time where you’re not in the best of moods and you snap. Now they are confused because they just did this same thing a day ago and it was all good. This time around you nearly ripped their head off. It’s not their fault because you never expressed how you felt about that and they just assumed you were OK with it. There may be times in bed where they do something that turns you off but you don’t want to hurt their feelings or kill the mood so you go with it. Now they are doing this every time and it’s taking away from your pleasure. There’s a time and place for everything. The way you deliver the message is important as well. You don’t want to make them feel attacked but you want to get the message across. Laying in bed at night and just talking as friends in the dark is one good way. You can’t see each others expressions and reactions which makes it easier to let loose. We have all changed our words and or approach around because of the the other person’s facial expression. Tightening all these loose screws along the way will assure you a strong and solid structure at the end. 

Have you ever met someone so attractive that you instantly get in a relationship? The lust and passion overpower the important things like sharing common interests and being able to hold a conversation. If you have done this then you know that the relationship probably only consisted of one thing. It’s not a bad thing but realistically speaking that can’t be done all day and night on a consistent basis. Although physical attraction plays a big part in a relationship, being able to stand each other plays an even bigger part. You have heard the famous “it’s what’s on the inside that counts” line before and this is true. But you don’t approach someone who is not attractive in your eyes and make assumption that they have a good heart. There is usually some type of physical attraction that lures you in their direction. It is very important to find a balance. As people get older their looks and physical appearance begin to change. If looks was the only thing that kept you in the relationship what happens when that changes? Being with someone who can finish your sentences or can sing the next line to a song you’re singing holds so much more value. No matter how much their appearance changes the personality will remain the same. So the next time you are exploring look past the surface. There is a lot more behind that coat of paint.